Thursday, April 28, 2016
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Sunday, March 20, 2016
My name is tolerance, I am the night security supervisor but now I am facing some problem. My operation manager is going to meet me to talk about my security officer Mr. stubborn. My site supervisor wants me to see operation manager? And I think I now get pulled in and possible will become of scapegoat of the complainer towards Mr. Stubborn.
Mr. stubborn has already working here for more than one year. He was posted here because his previous site supervisor wanted to fight with him because he brought lots of trouble there. The operation manger then removed him from the site and sent to here as my night partner. Some people had already feedback to me about his character and I was prepared to face this difficult person one year ago.
I was patient and answered many question he asked about the work. After one year and he started behave like the boss and I was tolerate to me best. But somethings happened.....
He was very particular about fire hazard especially when he saw rubbishes near the cargo lift. One day my operation manager came, Stubborn also brought him to see the rubbishes and the matter also brought up to the management. one day, he saw the new manager in-charge , he approached her and talked about the rubbishes near the lift but next day and other days he still see rubbishes never cleared. He felt uneasy and talk to the tenant floor's people one by one.
On one particular day, he informed clearer supervisor about the rubbishes and supervisor took the photo and let the management see.
Management messaged us they will inform the tenant. Horrible thing is that Mr. Stubborn went to talk to one tenant lady who is in-charge on cleanliness on the tenant floor. He talked to him in indecent way. The lady tole the management one security talked about the rubbishes.
The management was very angry and wanted to find out what was the conversation contents. My operation manager also came down to solve the problem and I also party involved because of Mr. Stubborn.
What should I do?
In short, am I going to talk good or bad about Mr. Stubborn to my operation manager?
I do not want to create enemy. What I am going to say?
I will say something that do not make Mr. Stubborn do something bad to me.
I must say:
So far I have no problems with him.
I think he was too passionate on work.
He like to bring up issues.
I would not follow his ways because I am supervisor.
His question I will bring up to my site supervisor and prevent him to bring up on his own ways.
What should I do?
Wednesday, March 9, 2016
Heart ping gas and the pain of the heart.
A young boy, have a bad temper, so his father just give him a bag of nails and told him:
" whenever you lose your temper, you'll nail a nail in the back of the court on the fence!"
The first day this boy nails down a total of thirty-seven nail, slowly every day under the nail of the decline in the number, he found that he can control their own temper, than under those nails nail came easier. Finally, one day, this boy will never lose their patience has learnt to temper, he will be glad to tell his father, father hear after told him:
" from now on, whenever you can control their own temper, when it was pulled out a nail!".
A little bit every day in the past, the last boy told his father, he finally put all the nails all pull it out. The Father held his hand to the backyard said:
" you're doing good, that's my baby! But, look at those on the fence nail pull out of the hole left behind after, these fence will always can't reply to sing once upon a time piece of stakes. When you're angry said angry things, just like these nails, like, in someone else's heart has left her with scars! Like you take a knife stab stab someone, no matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound will always exist."
Note: between people, often because some can't let go of each other's insistence that caused hurt forever. If we can all from themselves, begin to see the tolerance
To be others, believe that you must have received many unexpected outcome; help someone else to open a window, that is, to allow ourselves to see the more complete the sky.
Especially when people get mad, often can't tell you what a good word. Therefore, in order to avoid build hau industry, and even said the wrong thing and the usual trouble, it should be in a fix
A Multi-put in effort, provided below us a little bit big de experience, let everyone do reference:
(1) angry, take a deep breath before the third, speak again. (people in general are applicable)
(2) when she becomes angry, xiannian amitabha third, speak again. (Buddhism are the most applicable)
(3) angry at the front, two methods, if an appointment after the void, the re-take a deep breath, and then again Buddha ten times, after talking, to ensure the effective.
Why this fù zá de please you big de attention? Because the words of the pain, just like the real wound, like, is unbearable. As the saying goes :" Words to leave a third of the population " so angry but also cautious when words and actions!
Thursday, October 22, 2015
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Thursday, October 1, 2015
Casino sucks your money. How to quit gambling? Gambling is the very bad habit. Once you get hooked, it is very difficult to quit it if no external factors or good advices making you stop. Remember greed is the factor that block gamblers from quitting. If We ready want to have the ready happy and peaceful life, then we need to know the importance of quitting the gaming habits. We have to quit gambling. Remember there is too many temptation like sex, eating, sleeping, alcohol, money, power, all these simply because of our rooted illusion, comparison and attachment. If We have a dot of wisdom, then we got the hope. With the dot of superficial wisdom, then we can quit gaming. I see so many gamblers living in miserable life and I like to advise them to stop the bad habit. I hope this post " How to quit gambling can help someone who are addicted on gambling to quit to prevent more nightmares. The root of the gaming is because of greed. You want more money rely on luck. If the luck not there, you can wipe out your hard-earned money in the shortest time. You are dreaming to earn easy money but the operator is the ultimate winner because it sucks most of the gamers' money. You can not blame the operator because your mind want it. Gaming will affect your daily life and you will suffer in great pain emotionally and physically. This is the side effect for those who are addicted and lost much money.
Casino sucks your money. How to stop gambling? It can be done once you realize the bad outcome. Do you have any ideas how to quit gambling? Yes, ask those gamblers, they know very well. Let me tell you the story about Mr. Desire who is the gamer. Let's tell about this gambler story. His name is Mr. Desire.
1. Want to get rich in the shortest time : Why Mr. Desire became the gamer? It is because he wanted to have more money, he wanted to be the richest person in the shortest time. Did Mr, Desire became the richest man? No, he became the poorest man after one year of gaming.
2. Can gambler get rich instantly? Did Mr. Desire become more healthy after one year of gaming? The
answer is no, he become very moody , very sad person because he have lost all his hard=earned money. Not only that, Mr. Desire now own a lot of money to banks, friends and unable to pay insurance payment on time.
3. Great emotional suffering if money constantly lost for a period of time: Mr. Desire is now suffering.......That desire was so strong that blinded him for many months 15 months or more. The suffering finally wake him up a bit but he must be ready mindful because that habit can be came back if he forget it its danger....
4. The gambling habit can pop up again and again: Luckily, Mr. Desire can finally stop the habit, thanks for the advice from friends, wise people. We will continue to talk Mr. Desire until We have nothing to talk about him. The purpose of this post is just to remind readers do not ever to have the gaming habit. We ready no need so much money to survive....
5. Gamblers can not satisfy even he had won some because of greedy mind set: .Mr. Desire told us his experience. He said that he was so greedy that even he had strike $9000 dollars in few hours but his mind was so greedy that he wanted more. He then put the higher bets thinking the luck will continue to come, sadly to say the bad luck coming and all the $9000 dollars was completely wipe out.After that, Mr. Desire still want to win all the lost back.
6. Always thinking of winning back all lost amounts: Can Mr. Desire take back all his lost money, let's continue the story....
7. Keep on borrowing money from others and have many bad debts: Now, Mr.Desire has many worries, he is unable to pay Insurance installment on time. He is unable to pay rental fees. He is unable to pay the loan that he had borrowed from the bank. He is unable to pay back the money that he borrowed from his colleague. All these dollars are more than thousand over dollars. Mr,Desire suddenly feel panic and planned how to settle all these. The first problem was that he now has zero dollars on the bank accounts because he had lost all his salaries on gamer. The immediate problem is to have some money to top up bus fare/ Mrt card so that he still can go to work. He then asked his brother $50 and borrowed $20 dollar from his friend. With this $70 dollars, he then could drag until the next pay day.
8.More and more worries coming: Now, Mr. Desire started to receive letter from Insurance company for the unsuccessful deduction from the bank account. Mr.Desire started to receive call from loan bank that he needed to pay the monthly loan immediately, wow, the loan amount needed to pay more because of the delay. the rental fares also needed to be delayed. Now, Mr. Desire entered to the period of owing debts. Can Mr. Desire survive after that, Let's continue the story later......On 26-4-2013, Mr.Desire got his salary and he had to plan how to utilize the money. Mr.Desire first paid up the rental fees $300 and then he paid the bank loan total of $370( including the late payment charge $60 and the third loan payment $160). How about the $600 owned to his friend and Insurance payment for two consecutive month total up $940. Mr. Desire expected all these, he told his friend that he was unable to pay him in full may be pay half first. Mr.Desire gave this suggestion and his friend needed few days to consider. Wow, all these made him headache indeed. After checking the balance on the bank account, the balance was $940, just enough for the insurance payment, then how about the $600 and the daily expenses?
9. No money left as the outcome of gambling: Suddenly Mr. Desire thought that going for the gaming again might be able to solve all these payment if he ready got the luck and won. But after the deep thought, Mr. Desire gave up the idea because it was risky and how about if Mr. Desire had the bad luck and lost all the balances in the bank account? So. Mr. Desire never went for gaming eventually. Now, he drew $200 for the daily expenses because continued borrowing money from friends is not the solution. In this situation, Mr. Desire could only paid up the one insurance payment, the second payment had to delay until the next month 28-05-2013. The $600 owned to his friend had also needed to delayed further. Could Mr. Desire overcame all the burden? Let's continue the story....On 3-05-2013 morning, his friend told Mr.Desire to pay half of $600 first, the rest can pay on end of May. Mr. Desire then went to check the bank account, there is still some balance there. He drew out some money and paid to his friend $300 plus another $30 interest. So, he still need to pay him $300, insurance payment $630 plus the incoming new insurance payment $470, total insurance payment $1100. I think this month and next month also the headache for Mr. Desire. Let's continue the story until nothing to tell.
10. Emotional unstable: Because of all these, he stopped gaming and within this few weeks, Mr. Desire started to read articles with wisdom especially the Buddha teaching. Mr. Desire suddenly realize that life can be so peaceful and happy without greed. He feels ready joyful. Now, Mr. Desire is totally quit gaming and has no desires. He now is the normal man without abnormal mindset. Thanks Buddha's teaching transform him and he is now the person who never kill, steal, sex, telling truth, no alcohol. He adopt the Buddha life style and enjoy the highest form of living.Mr. Desire told me that he now enjoys the highest form of enjoyment without much money. With the small room, foods to eat, got clothing to wear, have a job, have time to watch video from Master chin kung, life is so good and happy just like Master Chin Kung. I hope everybody can live happily like Mr, Desire.
11. Illusion pop up from time to time : Now, Mr. Desire change his name , his new name is Mr. Happy. Sadly to say after few weeks, Mr. Happy became Mr. Desire again, it was because something pop up on his mind, he wanted to try the luck, it mean he was still in unawakened state. Wow, human mindset is damn difficult to control. On 21 May 2013, he drew $200 and went to gaming place, within one hour, these two hundred dollars were gone. And again he went home to take the balancing cash $70, hoping that he could slowly win some.
12. Life is miserable and affecting the whole family: The outcome was ready cruel, he lost again. Can he survive until the end of the month? Let's see....His brother Mr. Anger suspected Mr. Desire go gaming and kept on receiving the promotion letters from gaming office. On 22 May 2013, he reminded Mr. Desire not to go gaming again because it will affect the later life due to no money. Both argued loudly, Mr. Anger said to Mr.Desire : ' Are you the member of the gaming office? How come I keep on receiving the letters? I feel sad because of this." Mr. Desire said :" No, the gaming office will send letter as long as people went to the gaming place regardless whether you are member or not." Mr. Anger said :" Fucking hell, this gaming place make lots of people losing money, I don't want to see this letters coming anymore." Mr. Desire said :" You have to be cool, don't act like the angry bird, I think better we don't stay together, I wish to buy a house and move out here. Mr. Anger acted so angrily and called the police and voiced out his anger about 'GAMING ACTIVITIES ". Wow, the family is now became not peaceful because if all these. Can Mr. Desire quit the gaming finally? Let's continue the story. Suddenly Mr. Desire decided not to go gaming so as not to make the situation worse and he called the gaming club to stop sending promotion materials. Because of not going there anymore, he now has enough money to pay the outstanding bills and by 7 June 2013, he had cleared all outstanding bills no more delayed payment. Mr. Desire is now heading to the right path and the painful experiences indeed gave him the useful lesson. Mr, Desire now is totally quit gaming and he is now feel ready peaceful. Can Mr. Desire maintain this, let's watch closely......
After one month of peace, one day his illusion came out again and went to the gaming house and lost $400 within 4 hours, that mean the desire was still there, can Mr, Desire overcame all these, let's watch closely. Can his life always in agony again and again? Again he stopped gaming but the gaming desires still pop up few times and this time he lost the money from the insurance policy, the accumulated profit of $5400 just being wiped up completely. Wow , it shown that human beings want to stop the temptation is so difficult. Hopefully Mr. Desire can overcome all these struggle. Can he?
Mr. Desire still want to win back all he have lost and he now draw out all the balances in the bank account and the outcome still the same. Now the amount in his bank account left 2 dollars. Again he borrowed $300 from his friend and again lost all. You might be wondering how come Mr. Desire is so weak...Can he wake up this time? The pay day finally came, he withdrew all money for gaming thinking the luck could finally came but he only encountered bad luck, this time, he not only lost all the money and struck in the casino because he had exceeded the time limit and he needed to pay $100. Mr. Desire no choice but to called his brother for help. This time the brother controlled the temple and came down to give him $100 so that he could leave Casino. How about his daily life after that after Mr. Desire had zero dollars? Let's see how he cope with the new situation. Let's see this stupid gamer the next agony.
13. Need long time to realise and quit: Can he wake up again? I think the example of Mr. Desire telling us once we get hooked on gambling, we will live in miserable life for a long time. I will tell you more about Mr. Desire and hopefully he can quit gambling eventually. Thanks readers reading this post " How to quit gambling? "
14. Repeat the same bad habit: After sometimes, the gambling desire still pop up and Mr. Desire lost another 450 dollars. Again, he had to borrow from his sister and brother.
15. Telling lies: In order to borrow money from his brother. Mr. desire lied to his brither that his ATM card lost. Let's see whether Mr. Desire doomed or not.
Casino sucks your money.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Yesterday Tony Tan told me something. He said:" Luckily I still never throw my temper towards Mr. Rock. Thinking back, this is the golden opportunity to advance myself towards self-awareness.. Having awareness, I know my weakness and then I can improve it. The important is to live happily facing any type of situation whether good and bad. For this, reading more about Buddha's teaching enable me to handle daily challenge. Thanks Buddha. "
Let's contine his story in the next post.
Monday, June 29, 2015
Tony Tan who is security officer told me:
' I am the security officer, currently I am on night shift duty everyday. Now I have to deal with my colleague Mr. rock, this the the security officer difficult to deal with. I have to keep cool so that I still can continue working. If I am angry at anytime dealing with him, I think I have to quit the job. Why I say this because Mr. Hard rock too busy body, too hi per active......He is the person who like to find fault. Working with this type of person, I have to be cautious at all time. Chinese say : ' small man. "
He is the person who can easily pull you in and having lots of troubles. He is too Kay PO.......working with this type of person is sickening. One day, I felt frustration and just thinking of not going to work, I applied urgent leave because I could not tar Han that day........"
But anyway, I have to carry on and be patient because life is something like that lol. "
Monday, June 8, 2015
What activities Tony did mostly immoral activities. How to solve his problems?
Firstly, do not see too much immoral things especially from Internet.
Secondly, do more good deeds to avoid doing bad things, am I right?
Saturday, June 6, 2015
Let me continue the security officer's story. I was pondering why Tony wrote in Chinese instead of English.
I think the words came from his sub-conscious mind. What activities he did so far for this year? After having some interview with Tony, the security office who is permanently working on night shift. He was addicted on immoral sex frequently. He felt guilty for doing that because he also want to be the good man at the same time.
How can the man to be good if he frequently thinking of having sex with many women. Having addicted on that, he lost his energises too much and that's why he also feel tired.
Alas, addiction on any things are no good indeed, am I right?
Let me continue the security officer's story in my next post.
Thursday, June 4, 2015
Mr. Tony is the security officer. He told me the story yesterday as follow:
" Alas, Yesterday I was doing night shift security duty, i felt so tired and I half- sleep at security counter. I had one partner at night. I needed to write occurrence book during the night work. I needed to write the occurrence in English. At about 2.30 am, I was about to go for my patrol so I just wrote few words on the occurrence book saying that I was going for patrol. At about 3am, I finished my patrol and about to wrote some words on the occurrence book that I had finished my patrol. To my surprise, I saw few Chinese words on the occurrence book. This was my hand writing, I wondered how come Chinese words there. The Chinese words are something like that " Get rid of this year"s activities.
I think I might be dreaming while I was writing my occurrence book before I go for my patrol. It supposed to be written in English. I did not know why I wrote it in Chinese........" ?
Mr. Tony asked me how come this can happen? I told him: " Let me find out first. "
This is the story for today, I will continue it in my next post.
Friday, May 29, 2015
Xie Shaoguang is now the monk. I am very happy to know that he is entering to the gate of enlightenment. Time is running very fast, he left the showbiz at about 43 years old, now Xie Shaoguang is 51 years old Xie Shaogaung indeed the awaken hero. It is the luck for him to learn Buddha teaching and let go all worldly worries and desires. Of course, Xie Shaoguang will feel joyful internally. Xie Shaoguang had been learning Buddha teachings for many years especially Xie Shaoguang left Mediacorp 8 years ago. From the ways Xie Shaoguang did, we know that he was ready understand the essence of Buddha teachings. He does his best to take care animals like stray dogs and cats, injured animals like deer, etc. Buddha told us not to hurt any animals, kindness to all not just human beings. Xie Shaoguang is the low profile person, I had seen him acting in year 1991 when I was the acting extras. He was very friendly and quite person then. On 16th September 2013, Xie Shaoguang was ordained at the Golden Citizen Welfare organization which is situated at Pontian, Johor, two hundred people attended this blissful event. Xie Shaoguang is now called Shao Guang Shi Xion.
According to Mypaper quotes : "...Le Shan Shi Xiong said in Mandarin: "I've known Xie for over a year now. He is a quiet person and doesn't talk much. We usually talk about Buddhist studies.
"We don't talk about his past in show business, he has already let go of that."
That claim was further substantiated when reporters approached Xie for comments in person in Malaysia but only to be politely declined.
Xie said in Mandarin in response to the comments: "You know I do not interact with the media all along, so I am unable to help you in any way. Sorry about it."
Ilo Ilo director Anthony Chen was also given a similar treatment initially when he approached Xie to star in his award-winning movie -- the former actor didn't show up after Chen waited three hours to meet him in Malaysia.
However, he managed to move Xie thanks to a note and a DVD of his previous works and the latter made contact a few days later.
Speaking to Lianhe Wanbao, Chen recounted his meting with Xie: "The Xie Shaoguang whom I saw seemed to have entered another realm altogether. He has seen the entire entertainment industry and does not miss it. He'll never look back." "Let's see the recent news before he become the monk. Xie Shaoguang was the skilful actor in Mediacorp channel 8 drama series. During the years in Mediacorp, he was a low profile actor but showed passion in acting. Because of his extremely skilful acts, he was awarded many titles like five best actor awards, two best supporting actor award.
In his heyday, Xie bagged an impressive 19 awards over a 16-year career, which included five Best Actor and two Best Supporting Actor wins at the annual Star Awards.
He is also the only actor in local showbiz history to snag the Best Actor and Best Supporting Actor awards in the same year in 1996, for the Last Rhythm and Golden Pillow respectively.After quitting the acting scene, he runs a pet shelter and a vegetarian food court Three O Cafe. What he’s up to now: After hanging up his thespian spurs in 2005, Xie Shaoguang moved to a small town in JB called Permas Jaya. There, a vegetarian eatery where he’s also the chef. We hear he lives in a temple in the area. Contrary to popular belief, he hasn’t become a monk; instead, he devotes his time to studying Buddhism. Xie Shaoguang finally has the meaningful life. Great congratulation to Xie Shaoguang the awaken hero. Well done Xie Shoaguang. From his passion and focus, Xie Shaoguang will brighten many human beings especially those who are still struggling for the worldly desires and those are lost in the direction. I hope one day Xie Shaogyang can share with us the essence of Buddha teaching. Namoamituofo to all readers, May Buddha bless you forever happy and free from illusion, discrimination and attachment.
My friend told me is it because he was facing something bad that trigger Xie Shaoguang to be the monk. I told him that become monk is the great deed that very few people know. Why? Because the monk is the spiritual hero. Many people just come and go and never ready " understand " what life is.
Wednesday, May 27, 2015
Today I feel very relaxed because I have zero worries for this moment but can it be maintained.
The type of relaxation is so nice. This is freedom within unlike those excitement come from bodily excitement.
Perhaps we have to experience this type of " freedom within ". This is the pity things in life to not experience the emptiness.
Many human beings just know how to fuck, eat. The whole life is just doing some action ob the bed. Again and again and addicted on it as if the whole life just doing that type of acts. How can they know the feeling of emptiness? How can they have wisdom?
This article is for myself to read and as the reminder for me.
On 01 June 2011, this is the public holiday called Vesak day for Singapore.
Singapore is the rare country that our people can live harmoniously despite different backgrounds, religious beliefs. We treat all races fairly. We all love peace and do not like to use violence, that's the very excellent example for other countries to learn. Let's see how Muslim MP attended the Vesak day's celebration 2011 in Singapore. Mr. Zaqy Mohamad, Singapore MP , says Singapore has come a long way in embracing religious diversity.
He was speaking at an inter-faith Vesak Day celebration organised by the Buddhist Fellowship on Tuesday.
He said it bodes well for Singapore that a Malay-Muslim MP such as himself has been invited to officiate at the event.
Mr Zaqy said Singaporeans have become more respectful of religious observances of others and asking someone about his or her dietary restrictions before planning a meal together has become a common practice.
He added that it is important for young Singaporeans to take on the work of sustaining inter-faith dialogue and felt this has to be done through more face-to-face meetings rather than online. He said younger MPs will start to gain profile and acceptance soon and added that he hopes to see more of them coming forward.
Yes, we need to see all people living happily in Singapore.
The Buddhists around the whole world will celebrate it.
In Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Thailand, Cambodia, Taiwan, Vietnam, Nepal, Sri Lanka, Pakistan, and India
Vesak is an annual public holiday observed traditionally by practicing Buddhists in South Asian and South East Asian countries like Nepal, Singapore, Vietnam, Thailand, Cambodia, Malaysia, Sri Lanka, Myanmar, Indonesia, Pakistan and India. Sometimes informally called “Buddha’s birthday,” it actually encompasses the birth, enlightenment Nirvana, and passing (Parinirvana) of Gautama Buddha.
Looking at the situation in this present world, this is ready horrible. Human beings still doing all kind of cruel things like killing people, war etc.
What we can learn from Buddha?
The non-violence ways of living. We all need to get rid of greed, hatred and stupidity. In this present world, we see people of different faiths kill each others, where is the kindness?
We see human beings besides killing animals also kill human beings, how cruel human beings?
No wonder human beings keep on sufferings because of their cruel mindset.
In simple words, we need to have totally non-cruel mindset towards human beings as well as animals. The point is no cruel elements in our hearts. We need to reduce our cruel elements to zero if we ready want to live in real peace.
Time to purify our thoughts. Life is just the dream and we need to have the good dream. Please do not accumulate bad karma always.
We need peaceful mind by adopting Buddha's mindset, we all will be blessed regardless what you believe.
Let's learn more about Vesak day and have the happy mindset.
When Is Vesak 2011 / Wesak 2011?Vesak Day 2011
When is Vesak 2011? Vesak 2011 falls on Tuesday, 17 May 2011, which is the 15th day in the 4th month of Chinese lunar calendar. However, some countries observes the Vesak Day 2011 on different dates.
Vesak Day 2012
When is Vesak 2012? Vesak 2012 falls on Saturday, 5 May 2012, which is the 15th day in the 4th month of Chinese lunar calendar. However, some countries observes the Vesak Day 2012 on different dates.
Date Of Vesak Day
Vesak 2011 is celebrated by Buddhist around the world, and in different manners all over the world. Though some countries occasionally use different date for this festival, many would fall on the same day.
The exact date of Vesak Day varies according to the various lunar calendars used in different countries and traditions. In Theravada countries following the Buddhist calendar, it falls on the full moon Uposatha day (typically the 5th or 6th lunar month). Vesak Day in China, Hong Kong and Macau is on the eighth of the fourth month in the Chinese lunar calendar.
Thus the date varies from year to year, but as general consensus in many countries, falls on the full-month day in May.
The decision to agree to celebrate the Vesak as the Buddha’s birthday was formalized at the first Conference of the World Fellowship of Buddhists held in Sri Lanka in 1950, although festivals at this time in the Buddhist world are a centuries-old tradition. The Resolution that was adopted at the World Conference reads as follows:
“That this Conference of the World Fellowship of Buddhists, while recording its appreciation of the gracious act of His Majesty, the Maharaja of Nepal in making the full-moon day of Vesak a Public Holiday in Nepal, earnestly requests the Heads of Governments of all countries in which large or small number of Buddhists are to be found, to take steps to make the full-moon day in the month of May a Public Holiday in honour of the Buddha, who is universally acclaimed as one of the greatest benefactors of Humanity.”
Vesak Day Around The WorldVesak Day is often referred to with other names in each country. Official names of Vesak Day are Vesākha, Vesak, Wesak, Waisak, Visakah Puja, Vaishaka, Buddha Purnima, Visakha Bucha, Saga Dawa, 佛誕 (fó dàn), Phật Đản, and วิสาขบูชา
In Mahayana Buddhist traditions, the holiday is known by its Sanskrit name, वैशाख Vaiśākha, and derived variants of it. Vesākha is known as Vesak or Wesak (衛塞節) in the Sinhalese language.
It is also known as:
* बुद्ध पुर्णिमा/বুদ্ধ পূর্ণিমা Buddha Purnima or बुद्ध जयंती/বুদ্ধ জয়ন্তী Buddha Jayanti in India, Bangladesh and Nepal
* 花祭 (Hanamatsuri) in Japan,
* 석가 탄신일 Seokka Tanshin-il (Hanja: 釋迦誕身日) in Korean (Korea),
* 佛誕 (Mandarin: Fódàn, Cantonese: Fātdàahn) in Chinese-speaking communities in China, Singapore, Taiwan.
* Phật Đản in Vietnamese (Vietnam),
* ས་ག་ཟླ་བ། Saga Dawa (sa ga zla ba) in Tibetan (Tibet),
* (Kasone la-pyae Boda nei), lit. “Full Moon Day of Kason,” the second month of the traditional Burmese calendar (Burma)
* វិសាខបូជា Visak Bochéa in Khmer (Cambodia),
* ວິຊຂບູຊ Vixakha Bouxa in Laotian (Laos)
* วันวิสาขบูชา Visakah Puja, Vesakha Puja, or Visakha Bucha in Thai (Thailand),
* Waisak in Indonesia,
* වෙසක් පසළොස්වක පෝය Vesak / Wesak in Sri Lanka and Malaysia
Singapore Vesak 2011
The Vesak Day is an extremely important occasion observed in Singapore. Huge crowds will usually assemble at various Buddhist temples around the city. Inside the Buddha temples the monks chant sacred hymns and a large number of devotees set caged-birds free. Setting the imprisoned birds free is considered as a graceful gesture which serves as a mark of respect to all living creatures in the world. On this day, Singapore Buddhist youths organize blood donation camps and distribute gifts to the poor people. During the evenings, candlelit processions are found walking across the streets of Singapore and this is how the festival is ended.
You can observe the Vesak Day festival in Singapore for free as people can enter the temples free of charge. Some of the best points in the city for observing the festivities of Vesak Day in Singapore are the Buddhist Lodge at River Valley Road, The Thai Buddhist Temple at Jalan Bukit Merah and Lian Shan Shuang Lin Temple at Jalan Toa Payoh.
The Singapore Vesak Day is always celebrated in the month of May and is a yearly event. Vesak 2011 is celebrated on 17 May 2011 in Singapore.
Hari Waisak 2011 In Indonesia
Hari Waisak celebrations in Indonesia generally follows the decision of The World Fellowship of Buddhists. Hari Waisak 2011 in Indonesia will be celebrated on Tuesday, 17 May 2011. Traditionally, the celebration is focused nationally on the complex of Borobudur Temple in Central Java.
Rituals of national Waisak (Vesak) celebration in Indonesia usually observe following ceremonies:
1. Taking blessed water from the spring of Jumprit in Temanggung Country and torch ignition with the eternal flame of Mrapen, Grobogan County.
2. “Pindatapa” ritual, a ritual of giving food to the monks by the congregation to remind that the monks had devoted his life without livelihoods.
3. Meditation on the peak of the full moon. Determination of the full moon is based on the calculation of astronomy, so that the peak of the full moon can also occur during the daytime.
Besides the three main ceremonies, other Waisak ceremonies that were also conducted are pradaksina, parades, and art events.
2011 Wesak Day in Malaysia
Wesak Day is the most important festivals of the Buddhists in Malaysia and fall in the month of May. In Malaysia, 2011 Wesak (Vesak) Day will be celebrated on Tuesday, May 17th 2011.
Vesak is celebrated to commemorate the birth, enlightenment and death of Lord Buddha because according to Buddhists, all the three events took place on the same lunar date.
The Wesak day celebrations begins much before the dawn when the Malaysian Buddhist devotees gather in Buddhist temples for worship all over Malaysia. The Buddhists will then hoist the Buddhist flag and sing hymns in praise of the holy triple gem namely; The Buddha, The Dharma (his teachings) and The Sangha (his disciples). The celebration is done with prayers, chants, offerings and giving alms. Simple offerings are also brought to the temple such as flowers while prayers using candles and joss-sticks are used.
The Buddhist eat a vegetarian diet prior to the festival in order to cleanse and purify themselves. Animals such as doves and tortoises are released by the Malaysian Buddhist devotees on the Wesak Day as a symbolic gesture of releasing the soul and giving up the past sins. Besides that, this particular act is also seen as a way of giving freedom for those that are held against their will or being tortured. Free meals are also given to the needy on the Wesak Day.
Wesak 2011 in Sri Lanka
In Sri Lanka the Wesak Festival is celebrated as a religious and a cultural festival in Sri Lanka on the full moon of the month of May, for two days. In Sri Lanka, Wesak 2011 will be celebrated from Tuesday, May 17th 2011 to Wednesday, May 18th 2011.
During these two days, the selling of alcohol and flesh is prohibited by government decree. As a symbolic act of liberation, birds, insects and animals are released in huge numbers.
Celebrations include various religious and alms giving activities. Electrically lit pandols called toranas are erected in various locations in Colombo and elsewhere, most sponsored by donors, religious societies and welfare groups. Each pandol illustrates a story from the 550 Jataka Katha or the 550 Past Life Stories of the Buddha.
In addition, colourful lanterns called Vesak koodu are hung along streets and in front of homes. They signify the light of the Buddha, Dharma and the Sangha. Many devout Buddhists wear simple white dresses on Vesak Day and spend the whole day in temples with renewed determination to observe the observance of the Eight Precepts of Buddhism.
Vesak celebration also means making special efforts to bring happiness to the people in more straightened circumstances. Food stalls set up by Buddhist devotees called dansälas provide free food and drinks to passersby. Groups of people from various community organisations, businesses and government departments sing bhakti gee or Buddhist devotional songs. Colombo experiences a massive influx of public from all parts of the country during this week.
2011 Buddha Purnima in India
In India, Vesak Day is known as Buddha Purnima. On this day, Buddhists do not eat meat. This is considered an act of compassion towards animals. People are encouraged to perform other acts of kindness such as sharing food with the poor. Some people even set up road stalls providing free, clean drinking water. Buddha Purnima 2011 will be celebrated on Tuesday, 17 May 2011 in India.
Birth of Buddha or Tathagata is celebrated in India, especially in Sikkim, Ladakh , Arunachal Pradesh, Bodh Gaya and Maharashtra (where 6% of total population are Buddhists) and other parts of India as per Indian calendar. Buddhist People go to common Viharas to observe a rather longer-than-usual, full-length Buddhist sutra, as something like a service. The usual dress is pure white. Non-vegetarian food is normally avoided. Kheer, a sweet rice porridge is commonly served to recall the story of Sujata, a maiden who, in Gautama Buddha’s life, offered the Buddha a bowl of milk porridge.
The Buddhists bathe and dress only in white clothes. They gather in their viharas (monasteries) before sunrise to worship Buddha, offer alms to the bhikshus (monks), hoist the Buddhist flag, and sing hymns admiring the sacred triple treasure: The Buddha, The Dharma (his teachings), and The Sangha (his disciples).
Many devotees offer flowers, candles, and joss sticks at the feet of the monks. Such a ritual allows a Buddhist to reflect on the truth that just as the magnificent flowers shrink and the candles and joss sticks burn out in short time, our life span is too short and will decay soon.
Several followers listen to the continuous speech on the life and preaching of the Buddha throughout the day or request monks to come to their homes. Buddhist monks recite 2500 years old verses obtained from Buddha and urge people to respect other religions.
2011 Hanamatsuri in Japan
In Japan, Vesākha or hanamatsuri (花祭) is also known as: Kanbutsu-e (灌仏会), Goutan-e (降誕会), Busshou-e (仏生会), Yokubutsu-e (浴仏会), Ryuge-e (龍華会), Hana-eshiki (花会式). It is not a public holiday. It is based on a legend that a dragon appeared in the sky on his birthday and poured soma over him.
It used to be celebrated on the 8th day of the fourth month in the Chinese Lunar Calendar, based on one of the legends that proclaims the day as Buddha’s birthday. At present, the celebration is observed on April 8 of the Solar Calendar since the Meiji government adopted the western solar calendar as the official calendar. Since the 8th day of the fourth month in the lunar calendar commonly falls in May of the current solar calendar, it is now celebrated about a month earlier. Thus in Japan, 2011 Vesak Day will be celebrated on Friday, 8th April 2011.
In Japan, the general populace are not practicing Buddhists (and may be called casual Buddhists), so most Buddhist temples provide a way to allow the general public to celebrate and participate in only the aspect of the day being Buddha’s birthday, providing the statue of baby Buddha and allowing the populace to worship or pay respect by pouring ama cha, a tea made of Hydrangea. In Buddhist temples, monasteries and nunneries, more involved ceremonies are conducted for practicing Buddhists, priests, monks and nuns. Also, there are public festivals made out of the day in some areas.
2011 Visakha Bucha in Thailand
In Thailand, where majority of the population are buddhists, ach year, the nationwide festival of Vesak Day is held to pay tribute to the birth, enlightenment and death of Buddha. The Vesak Day will fall on Tuesday, May 17th 2011, however celebrations can be seen for more than a week.
In Thailand, people will congregate around the Buddhist temples to pray and give thanks to the deity on the Vesak Day. Monks dressed in their saffron robes will lead sermons and services throughout the day, with candlelit processions often taking place once night has fallen.
2011 Buddha Poornima in Nepal
The birth of the Buddha is often celebrated by Buddhists in Nepal for an entire month in the Buddhist calendar. The actual day is called Buddha Poornima (or Buddha Purnima), also traditionally known as Vaishakh Poornima. In 2011, the Buddha Poornima will fall on Tuesday, 17 May 2011.
The event is celebrated by gentle and serene fervour, keeping in mind the very nature of Buddhism. People, especially women, go to common Viharas to observe a rather longer-than-usual, full-length Buddhist sutra, as something like a service. The usual dress is pure white. Non-vegetarian food is normally avoided. Kheer, a sweet rice porridge is commonly served to recall the story of Sujata, a maiden who, in Gautama Buddha’s life, offered the Buddha a bowl of milk porridge after he had given up the path of asceticism following six years of extreme austerity. This event was one major link in his enlightenment.
It is said that the Buddha originally followed the way of asceticism to attain enlightenment sooner, as was thought by many at that time. He sat for a prolonged time with inadequate food and water, which caused his body to shrivel so as to be indistinguishable from the bark of the tree that he was sitting under. Seeing the weak Siddhartha Gautama, a girl named Sujata placed a bowl of milk in front of him as an offering. Realizing that without food one can do nothing, the Buddha refrained from harming his own body.
2011 Buddha Birthday in China, Hongkong and Taiwan
In the Chinese speaking countries of Hongkong, China, as well as Taiwan, the Vesak Day called Guanfo (bathing the Buddha) or Yufo (Buddha’s birthday celebration featuring washing Buddha image with perfumed water). The celebrations begin before sunrise and devotees throng the temples early at dawn to meditate. Chanshi (the ceremony of chanting the sutras and confession and prayer) is practiced by monks.
As the day progresses, Buddhist devotees visit orphanages, welfare homes, homes for the aged and charitable institutions to distribute cash donations and gifts to the needy. On this occasion, caged birds are freed to symbolize humanity and compassion.
The celebration is also marked with the devotees performing the “bathing Buddha” ritual where they held a wooden ladle and poured water over a small statue of the Buddha. Bathing a statue of the Buddha symbolizes a fresh start in life and the care given to newborn babies.
Legend has it that when the historical Buddha, Prince Siddhartha, was born, there were auspicious signs heralding his birth. They describe the sky as blue and clear on his birth, with dragons spurting purified water to bathe him. Since then, Buddhists have celebrated his birthday by using fragrant water to bathe the image of Buddha.
In these East Asia countries, Buddha’s birthday is celebrated in on the eighth day of the fourth month in the Chinese lunar calendar. Thus in 2011, the Buddha birthday falls on Tuesday, 10th May 2011.
2011 Buddha Birthday in South Korea
In Korea the birthday of Buddha is celebrated according to the Lunisolar calendar. This day is called 석가탄신일 (Seokga tansinil), meaning “the day of Buddha’s birthday” or 부처님 오신 날 (Bucheonim osin nal) meaning “the day when Buddha arrived”. Lotus lanterns cover the entire temple throughout the month which are often flooded down the street. On the day of Buddha’s birth, many temples provide free meals and tea to all visitors. The breakfast and lunch provided are often sanchae bibimbap.
In 2011, South Korea will celebrate the Buddha Birthday on Tuesday, 10th May 2011.
Happy Wesak 2011 ! Happy Vesak 2011 !
Wednesday, May 20, 2015
I have been working night shift for about 7 years. Wow, I found that my body is very tight, I think I have to do something, if not the life might be shorter.
Now, I am thinking why my body is so tight now,
Firstly Body never has sufficient rest. The resting time is after work after 10am, the body never go for the normal process of clearing toxins.
Secondly less exercises and drink too much coffee.
Thirdly too many Internet activities.
Sunday, April 5, 2015
Master Chin Kung keep on reminding us the Buddhists to have sincerity, purity, equality, wisdom, kindness, understanding the universe , let go all illusion, freedom within, accord with the surrounding with peaceful mind, mindful of Amituofo.
Buddha told us the reality of the universe and told us that there are many ways to get enlightenment or to the state of Nirvana. When we reach the state of Nirvana, we will not reborn in the realm like human realm, hell, animal realm, ghost realm or heaven. Born in the above-mentioned realms are not perfect because this is reincarnation realms. What Buddhists want are to attain Nirvana -the state of no-born, no die.
Through Buddha's teaching, We know the reasons not to kill, steal, sex, lie, alcohol etc etc.
In order to go to the pure land-Amituofo land, it is easy if we ready follow the teaching.
1. Do all the good deeds, not killing, stealing, sex, lie. alcohol and every deed must be mindful.
2. No greed, hatred.....
And recite Namoamituofo sincerely then we can die awake and Amituofo will bring us to the pure land.
Saturday, March 28, 2015
It was the sad moment when I heard that Mr. Lee Kuan Yew passed away on 23th March 2015. On wednesday I left for Parliament house to give respect for Mr. Lee. After that, I went to Jurong east library to surf Internet. At about 9PM, I went to nearby station for remember Mr. Lee Kuan Yew, I shared hand with deputy Prime Minister Tharman and a Junior Minister Mr. desmond Lee. They both thanks me.
Sunday, February 22, 2015
Today, I suddenly feel that I need to delete the posts that I had written earlier because all these posts are not that good for the mental health for me and others. I gradually delete it and hopefully I can delete all the posts can are no good for me and others.
Saturday, February 21, 2015
Thursday, February 19, 2015
We happen to born in this world at this time. We are born with six senses, some lacking one or two or more senses.
We can feel the pain, we have emotion because we are " feeling beings". How about other feeling beings like cats, dogs or other one.
Yes, higher feeling beings can take care some other feeling beings like cats. But many many feeling beings are being killed , tortured, eaten by higher feeling beings-human. The destinies of feeling beings are different but all have feelings.
If we care their feeling, then our feeling will be taken care of. If we do not care for their feelings then we will face the same fates as them.
In this lunar new year, as the high feeling being, I wish all lowest class feeling beings can be taken care of, at least they can live without being killed, eaten but many of them will have to pay their prices either being killed or eaten. We can not help and only can wish them move to the higher feeling beings and finally back to the original state=the state that all beings are free from agonies.
I now say again:" Happy new year to all souls." Yes, all souls are equal, we are lucky that we are human beings. Because we are human beings, we have the choice to care for those lowest feeling beings like all type of animals....
Thanks, Buddha had taught us the peaceful ways, the truly compassionate ways, selfless ways. I know by following these ways, I will be ready be saved. Action tell thousands words.
Time to clear all unnecessary desires, do the right job, follow the eight path recommended by Buddha.
Thursday, May 22, 2014
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走在马路上，放眼望去书报亭的杂志封面，半成以上都是勾引人的欲望的画面。游 戏、网络所充斥的越来越多的是暴力和色情，每一天，无数网络上的人都在互相传播电脑里面的淫秽视频（AV）。而这些却吸引着大量的年轻人。可想而知，这批 沉迷于其中的孩子，身心受到多么严重的污染！
有人说我喜欢钱，喜欢女人，喜欢享受刺激。这个你喜欢是吗？那是暂时没有事， 这个人老吃肉，让他天天吃肉，他就不行，为什么呢？他也不知道。真正的原因就是他不是这个物种啊，他违背了天理啊，他想吃肉，那个“想”是欲望，那些东西 是后天养成的，先天没有。所以，我们明白了这个就知道，“我想”、“我有这个欲望”，这些东西都是错误的，所以中国孔老夫子教给我们一句话，很重要，叫什 么呢？饮食男女，人之大欲。有人就讲，这个不是让我们去享受饮食，享受男女吗？各位又理解错了。什么意思呢？饮食男女，人之大欲，这个大欲，我们知道欲望 是一切苦难的根源啊！为什么这么讲？我们看这个“欲望”，当你得到它的时候，你有两种表现，第一个你糊涂，你比原来还糊涂。第二是什么呢？你傲慢，得到钱 了，得到名了，你比原来更傲慢，这是凶险啊，凶灾啊！我没得到，我欲望没有实现，没有实现怎么样呢？你就嗔恨，你就忌妒。两条路走哪一条只要是从欲望出发 的，你都会生烦恼，有灾祸。我们听明白了，就知道孔老夫子讲这句话是什么意思。什么意思呢？饮食男女，人之大欲呀，就是最大的危险。这是提醒我们啊，一个 是饮食，一个是男女，最容易给你带来凶灾呀！
东方讲清心寡欲，西方天天刺激你的欲望。今天的社会充满了西方的价值观。西方 价值观是什么呢？它跟东方的是相反的，东方讲清心寡欲，人要克制自己的欲望，不要让自己的欲望膨胀，不要让它受刺激。西方是什么呢？天天刺激你的欲望。我 们中国人听的音乐，大家听古琴弹起来啊，你身心就很清凉；我们中国人喝的茶叶，一闻它，很清香；我们住的房子啊，中国的宫殿，古代的民居四合院，那些红墙 绿瓦，青砖绿瓦，你仔细一看呢，你心里面呢，庄重，非常的庄重，绝对不是欲望。反过来，我们再看西方的建筑，你看它灯红酒绿，高楼大厦，进去之后很豪华。 我们想一想，你那个欲望就升起来了，你可以仔细去做这个试验。再有，我们穿的这个衣服，今天人讲究穿着要性感，这个是中国古代所没有的，都是西方传过来 的，说，我们穿着一定要性感，男子要有魅力，女子要性感，要吸引人，都跟电视里明星学的。你看他们穿的那个衣服，非常暴露，跟各位讲，不会穿衣服啊，违背 了天性。怎么违背天性呢？色情泛滥，违背天性，按照西方人所谓的这种纵欲，这种刺激的生活，找情人，找七个、八个，三个、俩个，你过这种生活，哪里知道你 的身心啊，倍受摧残！
我们古人讲什么呢？古人不是不让你有欲望，不是不让你有男女，不让你有饮食 啊，告诉给你什么呢？告诉你礼节。礼是什么呢？礼是大家的关系，大家的态度；节是去，它的环境，它的住房，它整个的气氛啊，绝对不会刺激你旺盛的食欲和你 的男女的欲望，大家可以做试验。你到那个里面，听那个音乐你就很安静、很安详，你这方面的欲望就很低。
“淫丵(乱搞男女关系)”真的那么可怕？难道“淫”比杀人放火、抢银行还更可 恶？听过、见过也接触过不少行为不检点的人，也没见他们受到了什么处罚，而且，那些有钱有势的人，又有几个是规规矩矩的，他们不也好好的？我在读书时，经 常狂饮烂醉，曾有一个长辈告诉我，老天给一个人的酒，是有定量的，一下子喝完了，以后就没得喝了。比如，给你的是四十缸酒，如果你在年青的时候把它们喝光 了，老了，就没酒喝了。这是当时我所听过的各种千奇百怪的，最“不靠谱”的理论之一，如果将这个理论推而广之，那么，老天既然给一个人的酒是固定的，钱也 应该是固定的，其它的任何享受也都是固定的，我还奋斗个屁啊。
毕业后，到了其他地方，由于气候及其它原因，酒比以前喝得少多了，几年后再相 聚时，当时跟我一起狂饮烂醉的还留在老家的同学、朋友，有好几个身患重病，胰腺性、糖尿病、三高……反正，在聚会时，他们只能望着酒杯苦笑，没得喝了，还 有一个，直肠癌，英年早逝。难道，他们已经将老天爷给的酒提前喝完了？
勤奋的人就能发财？那还有谁比民工更勤奋？聪明的人就能发财？至少我认识的有 钱人好多都不是非常聪明，甚至有些是严重需要提高智商的人；学历高的人就能发财？肯定不是，在很多地方，小学没上完的大老板，有很多；有关系有背景有门路 的人，就一定能发财？不一定吧，这类人是有发财的，但倒霉的也不少；归根结底，似乎条件只有一个，运气好的人，才能发财！那，这运气，从何而来，难道，又 是那如同魔咒般的“福气”？
在外地那么多年，有两类的人让我印像极其深刻：一位我的同行，03年他准备上 一个项目，那个项目是整个行业几乎要淘汰的，当时几乎是谁上谁死，我当时对他也是拼命劝阻，他是一个即不懂技术、也不懂销售，也没有什么得力的助手，甚 至，当时他还没多少钱，可是他上了那个项目，还做得相当的有声有色，现在几乎成龙头老大了，简直差点让我气绝！另一个朋友，无丝毫生意经验，甚至没有做生 意的兴趣，可偏偏就有人，不断的找到她做生意，推都推不掉，而且每次做都是大赚；还是一个朋友，几乎是做一行，黑一行，最离谱的是，我自己的一个项目，所 有的准备工作都已经准备好，前面的人做，有钱赚，后面的人做，有钱赚，而且对人的要求不高，几乎只要是一个人，就可以了，问题是，到了他做的时候，就是不 停的亏，只要一换人，马上就好，简直差点让我晕死！相信类似的例子，在每个人身边都不少，那么，这所谓的“福气”究竟是如何运作的？
其实，我们的传统文化早就说明白了，福气是存在的，而且每个人的福气，有相当 的程度，是与生俱来的，比如，你要是出生在某个富贵之处，还在娘肚子里的时候，就会比别人受到更多的恭敬；要是出生在香港半山，为你准备的一切足够一个普 通人生活几辈子，要是出生在一个朝不保夕的农民工家里，那……同时，传统文化也认为，福气是可以被消耗的，也是可以增加的，换句话说，福气如同一张信用 卡，是可以刷掉的，也是可以充值的；看看生活中的例子吧，有的小孩子，一出生，就受到了爸爸、妈妈、爷爷、奶奶、外公、外婆的千般呵护，传统文化认为，小 孩子孝顺、服侍长辈，他的福气卡就会被不停的充值，等他长大了，卡上的余额越多，他就越有出息；如果反过来，他的长辈一直服侍他到成年，那他的福气卡就会 被刷暴，余额很少，甚至为负数, 长大了，没有福气，也就没有出息了，香港的富豪们也深知这一点，虽然他们的孩子会享受各种优越的环境，但同时也会非常有意的让他们孝顺长辈，学会吃苦，李 嘉诚的儿子李泽楷，曾经在麦当劳卖过汉堡,在高尔夫球场做过的球童……类似的案例还有非常多。他们这样做，同样是不希望孩子过早的将福气卡刷暴，同样是希 望孩子往福气里充值出名也一样，每出一次名，福气卡就被刷一次，出的名越大，福气卡就被刷得越厉害，不信看看，不少明星，一下子突然火爆，又一下子突然沉 寂，不是因为他们做错了什么，而是因为猛的太出名，福气卡被刷暴了。同样有一些明星，他们是长青树，似乎福气卡永远刷不完，要不你再看看他们平时的行为， 他们是在努力为自己的福气卡充值。我们一般都不太明白，我们自己的福气卡里，究竟还有多少余额，所以，在享受的时候，要悠着点，不要一下子把卡刷暴，还要 尽可能往自己的福气卡充值。如同做生意一样：要开源节流！
一切让自己愉悦的行为，都是在消耗自己的福气，包括：手淫、偷窥、看各类色情 淫秽信息，甚至，看看街头那些身材惹火的女郎等等，都是在消耗自己的福气。不少沉溺于此的人，大多数都非常落魄，他们将自己的福气兑现在这方面了，而你的 福气，也是有一定额度的，你愿意被消耗在这些方面吗？所以，要适可而止！当然节流很重要, 更重要的是开源, 要多多地积累福气, 同时谨慎地使用福气, 这样才能够得到快乐安稳的人生. 我们用钱的时候都知道这个道理,用福气的时候怎么就忘了呢?
有人或许有疑问：见过不少生意做得不错，各方面都不错的生意人，在这方面的行 为相当的不规矩，这又如何解释？事实是这样的：如果他去年赚了一百万，如果他行为规规矩矩的话，他就能赚一个亿！这个比喻，能看明白吧？赚钱和事业的最大 的克星就是不正当性行为！一个人消耗完了自己相应的福报，那么就生活就会非常凄惨，甚至生不如死了。
那福气如何充值？——真诚的做一切事情，为别人好！积极帮助其他人,消除其他 人的苦恼,都是在给自己充值,而如果给他人带来烦恼,则会削减自己的福报,如一些女性穿着性感,使得其他人色迷心窍，焦躁不安,逐渐下流起来，给其他人带 来烦恼,自己也将无法平静,也会变的下流，并会削减自己的福报,而传播色情信息,那个罪过就更大了，写一件发生在作者身上的事：在几年前很喜欢转发各种编 得有些幽默的荤段子，而且还喜欢特别跟周围的朋友开这方面的玩笑，也就是在那段时间，由于工作的原因，不得不去一些环境非常恶劣的地方，而且自己住的地 方，也由于历史遗留问题及市政施工，变得相当的凌乱和肮脏。这样一直持继到对那些荤段子没什么兴趣了，过了没多久，同样也是由于工作的原因，离开了那些地 方。只不过是直到现在，才慢慢的明白，自己身处的那些污秽恶劣的环境，似乎跟那些引人心灵污秽的荤段子有关的啊。
印度的瑜伽修行者认为，如果一个人要修炼瑜伽获得成功，就必须做一名控制性欲 者，必须严格控制性器官。习瑜伽者不搞不正当的性行为。不正当的性行为通常意味着婚外性关系，但它也意味着除了以生育后代为目的的之外的其他性行为。 由于习瑜伽者旨在求得一个和平、安宁的心灵和一颗爱心，因此，他把欲念视为自己的敌人，这是很自然的。欲念产生急噪、糊涂、迷惘等等。正如伟大的瑜伽均教 科书、古老的《薄伽梵歌》中说的：
在思虑感官对象诸般事物的过程中，一个人会滋生出对这些事物的执著心，执著心 会产生个人欲念，欲念又产生焦躁恼怒，焦躁恼怒会产生错觉妄想，错觉妄想又产生记忆迷乱。当记忆发生迷乱时，智力就失去了，而智力一失去，人就倒下。因 此，为了摆脱欲念以及欲念的消极后果，习瑜伽者就力图控制生殖器官的诸多要求。这就叫做“控制性欲”（Brahmachari）。
如果一个人不能够控制性欲，他就还不是一个自由的人——他只是一名性欲的奴 隶。现在西方有些人大谈特谈“性的解放”和“性的自由”。但是，这些所谓自由其实只是适得其反，这是受奴役状态。这些所谓的获得“解放”的人日夜受到性器 官——即他们的欲念——的驱使来从事一些反常、肮脏和不健康的勾当。他们的心灵永无宁日一一他们老是在性的方面受到刺激，心灵完全被性器官所奴役。
一 切痛苦的根源都是贪爱，这是至关重要的道理，比如说我爱某个东西，我失去它必然会痛苦，我不爱某个人，他离去我必定不痛苦，人类的一切智慧其根本目的就是 战胜痛苦，摆脱烦恼，烦恼与爱欲总是形影不离，由爱欲滋生出世间千百种烦恼，人类的痛苦是多方面的，有的人没钱痛苦，有人没老婆痛苦，其实没文化会痛苦， 没尊严会痛苦，没地位痛苦，孤独痛苦，个子矮痛苦，被抢劫痛苦，被欺负痛苦，长的丑痛苦，痛苦是无穷无尽的，有多少贪爱就会有多少痛苦。
爱的需求必须依赖一定的条件。如称心可意的对象、得到对方的回爱，方能满足。 但你爱他（她）不一定他（她）就爱你，得不到回爱的单恋是一种苦刑。即双方互爱，也多有因家庭、社会等原因而不能遂愿者，这对双方会成为最大的不幸。痴男 怨女，情天恨海，演不完恩恩怨怨，元好问曲云：“问世间情为何物？直教人生死相许！”古来有情人不成眷属而杀身殉情者，不知有几何.爱既然依赖一定的条件 才会有，便具有一切因缘所生有为法必然无常坏灭的本性，既有男欢女爱，必有爱别离苦，纵有情人终成眷属，也免不了争吵、情变失恋及生离死别之苦，山盟海誓 “爱你到永远”，到头来没有不分手的。
3、由爱造业，因业受报。因贪爱偷情、邪淫、施暴、争斗、谋杀，为爱而导致家 庭不和、朋友反目，乃至为爱而偷盗、抢劫、贪污、受贿、诈骗，因此破财丢官、身败名裂、身陷囹圄、丧命失国，是从古及今上演不完的人间活剧。爱情被世人歌 颂为崇高美好甚而神圣的感情，裴多斐诗云：“生命诚可爱，爱情价更高。”但爱情毕竟以具有渴爱性、占有欲的欢爱为基础，故难免带有或多或少的污染性。
《爱 情心理学发现：相爱者之间的嫉恨与爱情的深度成正比。情人之间，爱得越是深，在悖逆、情变时也就恨得越深，由此而发生的情杀案件时有所闻。情人们往往称对 方为“怨家”，意味与爱同时有一种难以摆脱的怨仇心理。星云大师《谈情说爱》说：爱与恨是对难兄难弟，几乎常形影不离，爱得不好，会成为恨。
一 切唯心所现，业力所限：母猪在公猪眼中是大美人，公猪在母猪眼中是白马王子；人粪在狗眼中是美味，屎尿在蛆蝇眼中是游泳池。见了一只母猴子，你若是一只公 猴子，就觉得是美女；见了凡间妇，你若是凡间有淫欲习气的人，就觉得是美女。一切都无实体可得，一切都是虚妄，一切不可得。一切近看与远看都不一样，得到 时与追求时不一样，实现时与盼望时不一样，成了自己的时与未得到时、汲汲以求时不一样，天天在一起时与偶尔接触时不一样，结婚后与恋爱时不一样……一切只 是幻觉、妄情而已，不要被它骗了。拼命追求到的美女，几年后成了臃肿不堪的黄脸婆——这美女不是假的是什么？所贪恋的人，不过是粪器死猪肠，最后终是一堆 枯骨。变迁不住的就是假的，就无可把捉，不可得。就像在集市上买了几条鱼，拿回家变成了毒蛇一样。世间一切都是无常的，没有一样是靠得住的。色是刮骨的钢 刀，秀色是勾魂鬼，夺命刀。色丵欲是“需要”吗？得到美色是好事吗？美色、色丵欲使人骨髓枯竭、精神恍惚、众叛亲离，孤苦伶仃，这也都是你喜欢的、你需要 的吗？
同一感知对象，因感知器官的不同，所得相便有异。如天空云块间阴阳电的击荡， 由眼观之则为闪电，由耳闻之则为雷声，且雷声还在闪电之后。同一种红色，常人见为红色，色盲人则见为黑紫等色。同一种阳光，在人眼中和猫头鹰眼中的相状肯 定会大有不同。同一对象既然在不同的认识形式中现为不同的相，当知其相皆非本然真相。佛法讲色既是空，空既是色，感知器官感知不到者，非必为无，如人眼视 觉阀阈之外的紫外线、x光等，虽不可见，却非无实体，见有为无，亦属虚妄。关于感知经验的主观性、相对性、局限性，近现代各家哲学、心理学，几乎无不承 认。
善与恶的问题，最为诸家伦理学所重视。所谓善，指能使自他得今生、后世、究竟 的利乐者，反之则为恶、不善。唯识学心所法中的“善心所法”，包括信、惭、愧、精进、不害等十一种心理功能，其中惭，愧二法，被强调为转恶为善之本，经中 称“惭耻之服，最为庄严”，无惭无愧，被佛陀斥为畜生，意谓这种人丧失了应有的人性。心所法中属于恶的，分烦恼与随烦恼两类，烦恼，意谓恼乱身心不得安 宁，有贪、瞋、痴、慢、疑、恶见六根本烦恼。随烦恼，即副烦恼，有忿、恨、覆（掩饰过错）、恼、嫉、悭、骄、无惭、无愧、懈怠、放逸、失念等二十种。善与 恶、情与理、向上与向下三类矛盾，在人性中诸矛盾中最为根本，由此派生出佛典中常说的染与净、迷与悟、烦恼与菩提、明与无明等矛盾。这些矛盾，是导致人们 各种内心冲突和社会矛盾的根源，是诸家伦理学所着力探讨的重大问题。
理（理性、理智）与情（妄情、人欲）的矛盾，较善恶矛盾更深一层，为人性中一 对最为根本的矛盾。人类有先天的贪、瞋、痴、慢、疑等烦恼、随烦恼的因种，有先天的本能性自我执着，表现出自私自利的本性，遇社会生活之外缘，贪着财色名 位而希图占有，难免出生种种与世俗伦理、宗教信条相悖的人欲，当人欲胜于理性时，便会导致杀、盗、淫、妄等侵犯他人和公众利益的罪恶行为，造就今生后世的 恶报果。
人欲妄情，往往出于本能，佛学谓之“俱生”（与生俱来）、“性妄”（本性）， 它们发自深心，带有不自主性，与理性形成尖锐矛盾。儒家理学宣扬以天理胜人欲，但儒者们也往往有人欲难胜天理之时，知、行相悖，被人讥为“假道学”。学佛 修道者，也往往苦于烦恼难断，人欲难除，被烦恼所恼，甚至有被烦恼战胜理智而破戒、着魔者。
向上与向下的矛盾，指人类本性中有佛学所说心所法中“欲”（意欲、欲望）的不 息跃动，有意志力，这是人生命活动的重要特性。意欲与意志力，随各人心识中的善恶因种、情理矛盾，及社会、文化外缘的制约影响，既有可能随顺理性与善，出 生向上的追求，追求无我的高深境界，无私的行为准则从而出生佛学所说精进、不放逸等善心所法，成为修道学佛的动力；也可能随顺贪欲与恶，沉沦于向下的追 求，对低层次的生物性欲望的满足没有限度，被物欲所蒙蔽,所操控,心灵彻底被腐蚀,不得安宁,不得自由,耽溺酒色，贪名利权位，不择手段地扩张私我的占有 欲，乃至营私舞弊、贪赃枉法、偷劫诈骗、吸毒贩毒，灭绝人性，无所不为，被世人斥为衣冠禽兽，谓其丧失了应有的人性。
实际上，这种向下的欲求，虽可归咎于社会经济结构、生活方式、政治制度、文化 教育等外缘，但若人性中无先天的因种，亦难以形成恶业的现行。对于人性中这种向上与向下的矛盾，歌德《浮士德》第一部通过浮士德心中的两种精神的斗争，予 以揭示：一个沉溺在迷离的爱欲之中，执拗地固执着这个尘世；另一个猛烈地要离去凡尘，向那崇高的灵的境界飞驰。在未断烦恼的佛弟子心中，这两种精神的斗争 往往也很激烈。对于人性中的矛盾，基督教“人一半是天使，一半是野兽”的说法，可谓相当精辟深刻。一半是天使，意谓人因具有理性、灵性，有超越人欲的向上 追求之本性；一半是野兽，意谓人因其动物性的躯体和生活方式，有人欲和向下沦堕的本性。人性中的这种矛盾，基督教又称为圣灵之性与魔鬼之性的矛盾。
正因为人类本性中存在着矛盾冲突，所以人类社会从来便充满了善与恶等的矛盾斗 争，历史舞台上扮演着唱不完的正义与奸邪、智慧与阴谋、光明与黑暗、道德与堕落、进步与反动等斗争的活剧，现实生活中处处都可见到人性正面光明的放射和人 性负面污秽的肮脏。因为人性中有善性、理性、向上性的正面，故历来有代表人性正面的社会伦理、宗教信仰等，发挥着社会教化的作用，力图创造强缘，促使人性 正面的光辉发射，使社会文明、世界和平，人们的精神境界得以提高，人性负面的消极、破坏作用被抑制。
但由于人本性中毕竟有恶性、破坏性、向下性的负面，人的生活方式和人类创造的 财富总是提供诱引人向下沦坠的外缘，所以尽管贤哲们在不断地立言说教，宗教家们在虔诚地劝化感化，社会文化用各种方式不断地灌输正面教化的信息，政治法律 在力图制止罪恶的破坏性行为，但代表人性负面的种种罪恶与堕落，仍旧在频频出现，至多只是在一定程度上被抑制，出现较少而已，到今天为止，还没有哪一个社 会教化体系和政治制度可以彻底消灭人间的阴暗面、丑恶面。即使在原始的共产社会，部落成员们可能有在今天看来颇为高尚的道德，出现过先秦道家们所向往歌颂 的羲皇之世，但即便在那个时代，但即便在那个时代，部落、种族间争夺厮杀之残酷，大概也要超过动物群之间的争斗。中国远古有黄帝血战蚩尤之传述，今日地球 上尚可看到生番食人的太古遗风。就是在物质财富相当丰足、科学文化高度发达的现代社会，人性负面的创造物，并没比古代减少。扒偷劫盗、谋杀诈骗、作奸犯 科、贪污受贿、贩毒吸毒、道德沦丧、纵欲无度等丑恶现象，在哪片国土上都远未被消灭，战争的残酷性和规模，远远超过了古代。科学、财富、社会进步，不但无 力消灭人性中那兽性的、破坏性的负面，而且还能起放纵、诱长人性负面的消极作用或副作用，使人逐物不返、沉迷不觉。
对现代人来讲,要求戒色戒淫那是非常不切实际的,男大当婚女大当嫁，婚后男女 之事，因为有规范，进行过程中，心态是坦然的，一旦经历过多次之后，很多人会觉得男女之事，不过如此。而淫之所以成为习气就在于妄想，男女之事本身给人带 来的快乐并不很多，但是妄想带来的快乐占了绝大部分。所以，红楼梦中有句经典的话：“娶一个天仙来，也不过三夜五夜，也就撂在脖子后头了。”直接说明男女 相交的快乐其实并不很大。几次就令人不感兴趣了。但是由于认为的妄想，就附加了很多妄想之乐，比如：新鲜感，偷占便宜的感觉等等，所以才有了“妻不如妾， 妾不如偷”的邪淫妄想。
经常手淫的你，会渐渐的发现自己的运气变得极为的糟糕和诡异，虽然运气这东西 没法很直观的说出来。但是，手淫的你会发现自己总是莫名其妙的倒霉，莫名其妙地丧失很多大大小小的机会，若你还执迷不悟的话，就是你这辈子倒霉透顶，多灾 多难，贫困潦倒，下贱愚蠢，一事无成，体弱多病，挫折不断的开始。
这种错误的思想一直延续着，殊不知无形中折损自己多少的德行和福报啊！真是太 可怕了，一位很好的朋友告诉过我说：意淫手淫的话，会非常的背！就是十分倒霉！我就那么一听，没往心里去。后来的经历让我真的理解了：我今年大四，上半年 原本找到一份不错的工作，就业协议都签了，是办公室的职位。回到学校后，很是懈怠而狂妄，因为自己有电脑，黄色的东西看得更是疯狂了，网络上啥都去浏览， 还津津有味，出门的话，看见女生就会产生邪。。淫的念头，自己就跟个白痴一样。就在沉迷的过程中，没过多久，单位打来电话说，我的学历不够硬，原本办公室 的职位现在变成了工人的职位，是下车间做苦力的活！我听了这个消息快崩溃了，本科去当工人，好像太不靠谱了～生气之余，也没有办法，喝酒消愁，过了几天， 更加破罐子破摔了，还是一直看色f..情的东西，不久，单位又打来电话说，我有可能被退出单位，理由是上级领导说我的专业不需要，让我做好心理准备！我的 天哪，都大四下学期了，我一直沉浸在漂的状态中，现在还能到哪去找工作啊！我又一次的陷入了崩溃的边缘，怎么办，怎么办，整个人都快疯了，欲哭无泪！因为 单位说可能要退我，也不一定，所以我报着一线希望。渐渐开始约束自己的行为了，再没有心情看黄色小故事了。有天无意翻开《寿康宝鉴》，终于如梦初醒！！！ 原来我这样的行为叫意淫，手淫意淫都属于邪淫，因果报应是非常可怕的！会削减你一生的寿命和福禄的！
许多人认为食色性也，性是人类的本性，是美好的，殊不知，性对许多动物都意味 着死亡，衰竭，许多种昆虫，雄性在交配后往往死亡（如苍蝇、蜂类、蟑螂，蜘蛛等），一般苍蝇都是在完成变形后2~3天就交配，之后马上死亡。我们以控制苍 蝇们的蛋白质（鲜鱼）的摄入量，即不喂鲜鱼来观察它们，发现苍蝇在没有充足的蛋白质的情况下，不发生交配行为，从而在15天的时间里，仍然没有雄性苍蝇死 亡。之后我们给它们喂食鲜鱼后，不到24小时，苍蝇即发生交配行为，之后雄性苍蝇马上死亡，许多鱼类也是在交配产卵后立即死亡，性是大自然的魔咒，有诞生 就意味着有毁灭，新生命的出生往往意味着父母的衰老，死亡，我有一个好朋友，他是一个专门从事警犭培训的好朋友，他就给我举了一个例子，在这里提供给大 家，也作为参考。什么例子呢，他发现警犬，嗅觉很灵敏，警犬在进行一次交配之后，它的嗅觉的灵敏度降低一半儿，大家注意，警犬在三次交配之后直接淘汰，没 有破案能力了。
祖国中医认为肾为生命之本，禀受先天父母的元气即藏于肾。肾气足则五脏六腑功 能协调，容面光泽红润，精力充沛，抵抗力强，不易生病，肾气虚则反之。为了便于理解，举个例子说明。古人认为天人合一，现代医学也证明了人的生理结构、活 动规律和大自然极其相似。例如，由于人们滥砍滥伐，造成森林覆盖面越来越小，森林失去了调节的能力。因此这些年不是旱就是涝，水土流失严重，土地沙漠化， 部分地区发生泥石流，长江、黄河的河道两边出现塌方，尤其是近几年，一些城市出现沙尘暴，给人们的生活、工作带来极大的危害。因此，只有植树造林，固沙防 风，才能避免这些危害。与此相似，人由于贪色纵欲，造成精气外泄，肾气不足，导致精神不振，腰酸腿软，体虚乏力，头昏耳鸣，口渴盗汗，睡眠质量不高，抵抗 力减弱，从而百病滋生，寿命减短。
因此，人应该节欲，固本培元，使自己精力旺盛，抵抗力增强，从而百病不侵，寿 命绵长。做任何事情都要符合客观规律，违背客观规律就要受到惩罚。这两个特点是我切身体会的，后来我渐渐发现，很多手淫者太多太多的特点在我身上都非常集 中和明显，不过是平时不注意罢了，比如，手淫的人，记忆力会被手淫严重的快速的消减，记忆力就像是80岁的老太太一样的脆弱和转身既忘。自然科学的科目如 数学，物理化学需要你的记忆力以供推理思维只用；而文科的科目如历史，政治，语文还有英语，对于记忆力的要求更是不用我说。手淫和意淫的时候，你的记忆力 也在被疯狂的毁坏，那样的话，记英文的单词都会感到万分的吃力，甚至会在人际交往的时候根本就记不清对方的名字！比如，手淫的人，心智的发育会严重的滞后 和迟缓。根本就不会为人处事，悲哀的发现自己的人际关系是一塌糊涂。手淫患者，人际交往的技巧和手腕手段几乎没有，在处理各种的朋友社会关系的时候所表现 出来的心智就像是小孩子一样的幼稚和‘天真’，再说的直白一些，所谓的‘天’真就是傻子一样；比如，气质会因为手淫变得猥亵和下流，无论你的气质曾经是多 么的阳光和高贵。实际上，说的直白一些的话，手淫的人根本就不配气质这两个字。手淫的人，内心和思想肮脏和下流，而容貌和气质主要是由你的思想和思维还有 智慧决定的。相由心生，手淫的人，那种的猥亵和下贱的气场，让人一见就会厌恶和反感，手淫的你，以这样的外表在学校和社会上，怎么样去混！？！？连给对方 一个良好的第一印象都办不到，更别提那惨淡杯具的人际关系了，年轻手淫者消耗了褪黑激素，使松果体腺萎缩。这导致了他们早衰。新陈代谢加快，比如胡子长得 快……
意淫是由扎根于人意识中的淫念产生的（前面的身、口两种行为也是由淫念产生的）。意淫时有时无，随境而生，随境而灭。产生时人们往往沉湎于其中而不能自 拔，不能自警；消除时了无可得，无人知道，因此心安理得，意志薄弱的人常常会沉湎于此。有的人可能产生过羞耻心和恐惧感，但转瞬即逝。同时有的人认为我只 是想一想而已，又没有做什么事，也没有危害到别人，有什么关系。这就会很容易让人自我放纵，意识不到意淫的危害性。
诸葛武侯说：“非淡泊，无以明志；非宁静，无以致远。”淡泊，是说欲望少。一 切欲望，都能使人心志昏昧，而低级的欲望就更为严重了。宁静是指心思的安定。若是心系于情欲，就没有宁静可能。所以要保存青年人聪明敏锐的脑力、活泼的精 神，应当避开这些低级的感官接触为最重要的事。孟子说：“其为人也寡欲，虽有不存焉者，寡矣。其为人也多欲，虽有存焉者，寡矣。”这句话是指清明的心志是 否存在。简单的说，一个人的嗜欲深则天机浅，物欲少则心智明。
只要受淫欲蒙蔽，人就会没有智慧，因为情欲与智慧相违，被淫欲牵引蒙蔽，人的 心量变得如针眼般小，在这种状态中，人的智慧是无法开展的。人类的智慧境界，只有在宁静的状态中才会出现，绝不可能以纵欲而现前， 在邪思妄想当中，人的 心力无法集中，不必说出人头地，就连一件小事也不可能能专心处理好 。
如果长期浏览色情信息不断刺激自己的身体,将给人带来意想不到的后果，繁殖系 统就会逐渐支配人的大脑,人就会渐渐彻底沦为性器官的奴隶，头脑只剩下交配的欲望，常常寝食难安，无时无刻不被性欲折磨，手淫将会越来越粗重,越来越变 态，性取向也会往变态发展,到最后人性就会完全丧失,所有肮脏的事情都会不由自主的浮现在脑海里,这时这个人彻底废了,这种人死后一定会投胎到地狱当中。
三是心神宁定！无论遇到什么事都能做到心不乱不躁不慌。拥有了强大的自信，同 时处世又谦虚待人。《论语》中说：君子敬而无失，与人恭而有礼，四海之内皆兄弟也！现在心能静下来，毕业了还和有些同学住在一起，他们一天到晚上网，通宵 之类的，而我看书，看教材，练字，都搞得下去。一次被导师狠狠骂了一顿，当时有点感触，走出办公室就没什么了，不会给我留下阴影，没什么事能太多的影响我 的情绪了，每天都不慌不忙循序渐进的做事。
四是为人处是坦然自在。在我戒之前，那时看到女生会有各种淫念那个时候，明显 感觉自己正气不足，老感觉委琐卑下。而如今远离手淫和意淫后几年后，在女生面前正气很足，不管是在多么高贵多么有本事的女生面前，都不会自卑，女人缘越来 越好，因为现在就有这样的自信！真正的男人，就会慢慢陪养出来。而女人最欣赏的，不就是男人这个自信吗？等等等等……好处都说不过来了呵呵
亲爱的朋友，我想说的是，爱与温暖是可以传递的，我们每天，是给家人，朋友， 同事，社会，带去阳光还是带去冰霜？若成天阴沉着脸，那看到你的人，自然也会退避三舍，怎么可能有一个和乐的氛围呢？所以从当下就开始改变生活，改变环 境，虽然还只是一个学生，仍在学习，并没有什么钱财去做什么大事，却很实实在在的进步。一个人通过戒色，进而找到生命中有意义的事去做；想要飞的高，就要 把地平线上的一些龌龊事忘掉！人生真正幸福的源泉，在自己付出的时候，还能有益于家庭、社会，那时人生中的乐事。因此，我们要将心放在那些有意义的利益大 众的事业上，去创造人生的辉煌。生活的明媚，需要自己争取。男子汗大丈夫，养足精气，心中才有底气，有了底气，才能做到大气，胸藏大气者，才能向雄鹰一样 翱翱
5，同性恋，完全为生殖器控制，不分别气味，听觉，体型，伦理，满脑子都是畜生不如的肮脏想法，基本无可救药，死后直入地狱。事实上同性恋的产生主要有两 个原因，色情泛滥，长期浏览色情信息，性器官被长期刺激，激素分泌失调，大脑里淫念越来越厚重，渐渐淡忘了其他四种感官，只剩一堆肮脏的念头，见到什么都 与XX联系起来，由轻度到重度，再到无可救药，一步步发展，第二个原因就是缺乏运动，饱暖思淫，每天做大量体力活动劳动，远离色情的东西，避免受到刺激， 这样可能有所好转。
邪淫之毒，渗透深广，有目共睹。实堪称无形伤身剑，残忍杀人刀，慢性之毒药， 吸精抽髓之隐形鸦片！邪毒暗流滋生，使人间正气衰节，淫风横行。邪淫纵欲之人都心执“人不风流枉青春”之歪理邪说，放纵己身，沉沦堕落于肉欲淫海之中，难 以自拨！笔者劝深具善根之人，远离淫祸，走向身心健康的光明之路。